On a first date, it’s likely that things will get heated during the night and eventually, there may be some physical contact. While this can be an enjoyable experience, it also presents the risk of becoming overwhelmed and making an inappropriate decision. In some cases, having some sex after your first date may help both of you take a break from the intensity of the situation and reflect on how things went.
There’s often a stigma and fears attached to having sexual relations after your first date, but it doesn’t have to be avoided. Plus, it provides an excellent opportunity to determine whether both of you are compatible and if there is any chemistry between the two of you.
According to a study by Love Honey, nearly one out of every two people engage in sexual activity on their first date. Men are statistically more likely than women to have this kind of interaction on their first date.
The idea that sex should not be done on first dates or before the third is an outdated belief from Victorian times and has nothing to do with sexuality. It’s misogynistic in nature, suggesting women should wait until after having more dates than men before having intimate experiences, making it difficult for some women to break free of this mental block.
Though this belief is deeply-ingrained in sex culture, it doesn’t need to be followed. Studies show that having sexual contact before the third date is actually not that uncommon.
It is never appropriate to have sex on the first date if you feel uncomfortable doing so – this applies equally for both men and women alike. Be honest about your comfort level before agreeing to have sex, and ensure that the person you are dating respects that decision.
It’s wise to have some form of lube on hand before your date. Whether it’s a lube with alcohol, or simply some lotion, having something prepared can help avoid any awkward moments during sexual contact.
Another thing to keep in mind is being prepared for any potential accidents that might happen during sexual activities. You don’t want blood on your sheets or in bed, so having condoms and towels handy is a wise idea.
If you choose to have sex after your initial date, be sure to adhere to these tips for safety and enjoyment.
1. Be mindful of her alcohol intake before engaging in sexual activities. If she appears to be too intoxicated and cannot stand or is falling asleep, it would be wise to call a cab or have someone deliver her home safely.
2. Do not attempt to push her into having sex. She might feel nervous or even embarrassed about asking for such things, so do your best not to put any pressure on her.